Why the nanny will always appeal to the husband

Gwen Stefani and Gavin Rossdale filed for divorce to end a 13-year marriage in 2015.
Gwen Stefani and Gavin Rossdale filed for divorce to end a 13-year marriage in 2015. Credit: Getty

High-profile women often go to great lengths to say that they don’t have a nanny – so it’s doubly embarrassing when the husband turns out to be having an affair with her.

We don’t know whether “the shocking three-year affair” US Weekly insists singer Gwen Stefani’s husband, Gavin Rossdale, has been having with nanny and Stefani-lookalike, Mindy Mann, is anything more than a provocatively headlined photo collage. But according to the gossip magazine, the liaison was revealed when flirty messages and explicit snaps were accidentally synched to the family iPad. Ouch.

When will cheaters learn that technology is neither your cupid nor friend?

Using technology is never a good idea when it comes to relationships. Credit: Steve Parsons/ PA

Flippancies aside, I can’t imagine anything more gut-wrenching than your husband cheating with the one woman you trust above all others – with your children.

I understand why the likes of Jude Law and Arnold Schwarzenegger might seek solace in the arms of someone presumably comparatively gentle and low-maintenance.

Gwen Stefani of No Doubt and Sting perform at the halftime show of Super Bowl in 2003

The most truthful – and hurtful – answer to the question “Why her?” is always: “Because she’s not you.”

The answer to the question every women’s magazine will ask – “Why the nanny?” – is equally simple: “Because she’s there.”

And what greater allure has there ever been to men than convenience?